Self-care activities word search for grown-ass folks

Download this self-care activities word search to print or open in your favorite photo editing app to play and color! PDF here for your printing pleasure: self-care activities      NikkiNikki is a photographer, writer, artist, and advocate of radical self-love. She writes about mental health, gaming, sex, and inclusivity. loveisafetish.com/

Is a dedicated sex toy cleaner worth the extra money? We think so.

  Do you need a dedicated sex toy cleaner? No. Do I suggest you buy one anyway? Yes. Hear me out. I’ve been using Wicked Foam ‘n Fresh toy cleaner, and I have to say, I’m a fan. It’s antibacterial and smells nice with the help of olive leaf, thyme, and lavender extracts. Since it’s just …

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You deserve to feel good about yourself. Here’s how to challenge insecurity.

Insecurity is such a basic-ass bitch, isn’t it? For something that’s just a concept, it sure can fuck up how we feel about ourselves. Therapy can help but in this economy? That’s not a quick or realistic solution for a lot of us. So rather than waiting until you can address some specific points of …

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What a piece of trash in a tree taught me about living my life

  I sat in my backyard the other morning and mindfully appreciated a rare quiet moment. The early morning breeze gently greeted my skin with a welcome good morning caress. The rumbling ocean crashed into the shore nearby. The birds sang sweetly in the tree. And then I heard it, the unmistakable crinkling of that …

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Growth isn’t always immediately apparent

One of our toddler’s favorite books right now includes a line that reads “You can’t see the flower grow” and it really resonated with me. Mostly because I had to really think about how I felt about that sentiment. Like a lot of us since the pandemic started, I do quite a bit of indoor …

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I’m doing the best that I can

CW: mentions of alchohol, mental health, ADHD, depression, RSD   I often feel like I’m losing time and it makes it hard to breathe. Watching my life pass me by, so many plans made and forgotten. Moving to a new country, not meeting new people, not exploring a new culture, just so much hiding. Some …

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Pragmatic male sexuality for Earthlings

  I think the hard sciences fail us and the soft sciences often actively work to harm us. While that’s generally true, in this case, it’s a specific statement on the modern discourse surrounding male sexuality. We know more about the machinations of the quantum universe than we do about the human capacity for sexual …

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Amnesty for sapiosexuals

I’m going to share an embarrassing story. Once, not long after my internship, I was approaching a deadline, and the person I was supposed to interview emailed to let me know they couldn’t make our call. They wanted to know if we could do the interview via email. I was over the moon. As someone …

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My blue Pride

My blue Pride

  Happy… Pride… month? Let me try that again. Ahem. Happypridemonth. Still not there. Happy meh meh meh. Well, fuck. I was starting to think that I sucked at being queer when June 3rd rolled around and I realized I hadn’t written a single thing for Love is a Fetish all month long. That’s 72 wasted hours. …

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I'm queer enough. So are you.

I’m queer enough. So are you.

      Pride month is only three weeks away, and that means it’s time for people like me to get defensive about who we are. I’m queer. But am I queer enough? Am I pansexual enough? Am I demisexual enough? Who gets to decide? I’m on the asexual spectrum. Like all things human, asexuality …

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