The concept of “self-care” isn’t necessarily a new one, but the field of research surrounding it is far from mature. Succinctly put: we’re just starting to understand the physiological ramifications of long-term exposure to stress, anxiety, and frustration. We’re in an era where most folks finally recognize the importance of self-care. By and large, we …
Go on…Study: Practicing self-compassion makes you a better caregiver
I have found few things as rewarding, exasperating, creative, tedious, and rage-inducing than learning claymation. And this includes learning how to roll a perm in under half an hour in cosmetology school nearly two decades ago, where I saw no less than a dozen stylists lob their mannequin heads across the room in a fit …
I was queer when I woke up this morning. It wasn’t something I planned. I didn’t drink a queer-lixir before I went to sleep. It just… happened. Don’t get me wrong. It wasn’t unexpected. I was pretty sure I’d wake up queer today and I’m pretty certain I’ll wake up queer tomorrow. Mostly because I’m …
Do you need a dedicated sex toy cleaner? No. Do I suggest you buy one anyway? Yes. Hear me out. I’ve been using Wicked Foam ‘n Fresh toy cleaner, and I have to say, I’m a fan. It’s antibacterial and smells nice with the help of olive leaf, thyme, and lavender extracts. Since it’s just …
Go on…Is a dedicated sex toy cleaner worth the extra money? We think so.
Pandemics suck. Not that anyone was disputing that before COVID 19, but the last 20 months have been like choosing “nightmare” difficulty mode for real life. Oh you have a job and people you care about and personal things going on? Let’s throw in a literal plague to add some extra challenge. …
Go on…Surviving the Aftermath helped me cope with depression – now it’s leaving early access
One of the most absurd discourses I’ve seen is folks debating the legitimacy of one another’s “gamer” status. What does or does not constitute a gamer? It’s super-duper simple. If you play games and want to call yourself a gamer, you’re a gamer. What games count as official gamer games? Is it a game? Then …
Insecurity is such a basic-ass bitch, isn’t it? For something that’s just a concept, it sure can shape how we feel about ourselves. Therapy can help but in this economy? That’s not a quick or realistic solution for a lot of us. So rather than waiting until you can address some specific points of trauma/origin …
Go on…You deserve to feel good about yourself – start challenging insecurity
I sat in my backyard the other morning and mindfully appreciated a rare quiet moment. The early morning breeze gently greeted my skin with a welcome good morning caress. The rumbling ocean crashed into the shore nearby. The birds sang sweetly in the tree. And then I heard it, the unmistakable crinkling of that …
Go on…What a piece of trash in a tree taught me about living my life
One of our toddler’s favorite books right now includes a line that reads “You can’t see the flower grow” and it really resonated with me. Mostly because I had to really think about how I felt about that sentiment. Like a lot of us since the pandemic started, I do quite a bit of indoor …
CW: mentions of alchohol, mental health, ADHD, depression, RSD I often feel like I’m losing time and it makes it hard to breathe. Watching my life pass me by, so many plans made and forgotten. Moving to a new country, not meeting new people, not exploring a new culture, just so much hiding. Some …