Fascinator waterproof blankets wick away your wet-spot worries

Part of a truly satisfying sexual experience includes the opportunity to relax, be fully in the moment, and enjoy yourself without shame or worry. For some folks, concern over getting the sheets and bedding wet can distract them right out of a heated moment and even prohibit them from achieving orgasm. Sure, it’s not a …

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Set the mood with this All Night Long fragrance mist

The All Night Long fragrance mist is a warm blend of floral and citrus notes and is supposed to release a “subtle scent unique to you.” Personally, I didn’t pick up too much in the way of citrus and mostly smelled the floral (black rose and peony) and the heavy amber scent. I also didn’t …

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Beside myself: The Quantum Slalom

First things first: read the headline out loud. In doing so, you’ll likely have no choice but to become self-aware for a brief moment as you ponder how you sound saying those words. They don’t exactly roll right off the tongue. The point of this article is to teach you something you’ve already been taught: …

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Add some heat to your date nights with this intimate cooling serum

The LuvMor intimate cooling serum by Calexotics was formulated by an all-woman team to add additional sensory fun to your next rendezvous with a combination of menthol and natural ingredients. In our testing we found it to be delightfully slippery without feeling oily, greasy, or sticky. Reactive massage oils aren’t typically something we keep in …

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Intimate Earth lubes are formulated and designed exclusively by women

I am always thrilled when I get the opportunity to try out a new lube, even more so when I get to compare two different types from the same brand. Hydra Hydra is a light, slippery water-based lube.  It’s not super long-lasting, so you may need to reapply, which is fine since a little goes …

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The LuvMor Teases is a handy dandy beginner-friendly vibe

At only a little over 3 inches long and an inch and a half wide, the LuvMor Teases from Calexotics is an adorable lightweight little vibe with a shape perfect for your palm (or intimate wear), making it great for folks with hand pain or mobility struggles. It charges via a proprietary USB charger which …

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Treat yourself to the silky soft suds of this tea tree toy cleaner

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I think having a dedicated cleaner for your sex toys can be a delightful addition to your collection. This easy-to-use soft foam cleaner and its anti-bacterial sensory goodness is a real treat. The smell is light and clean and makes me think of hand soap in …

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Word search: Multiplayer games

  Sometimes self-care includes playing games with people you enjoy being around, both in person and online. Enjoy this word search and then you can get your game on! What are some of your favorites?   Find more word searches here, and don’t forget to subscribe to the Love Yourself! Newsletter!

Love your art – Love Yourself! newsletter

I struggle with self-doubt and comparison, often getting stuck in the headspace of thinking there are so many artists and creators out there, what could I possibly have to offer the world? Sometimes I have trouble thinking of reasons why anyone would care about what I have to say or create if there are people saying …

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Spice up your life with these delightful candied jalapenos

Add some spice to your life with this sweet and spicy candied jalapenos recipe! Ingredients 10-12 jalapenos 1/2 white onion 1 tbsp minced or chopped garlic 1 cup apple cider vinegar 2 cups white sugar 1 tsp garlic salt   Directions 1. Slice 10-12 jalapenos to around 1/4-1/8 in (I’ve found that the thinner they are …

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Analysis paralysis, information overload, and you

What do you want to eat? Which song would you like to hear next? Who’s your favorite actor? Would you like sugar and cream? How many rolls of wrapping paper do we need? Which way should I turn? Please hurry, people are waiting on you.  Choose. Now. Decide. Hurry. Is this what it feels like …

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5 reasons why you should start a mini water propagation garden today

Here are five reasons why you should start a mini propagation garden today! How do you feel about water propagation? Personally, I appreciate it because there is zero cost or real effort involved and it’s a delightful payoff when you see those little roots growing. 1. It’s good for you Water propagation is an excellent …

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Word search: Water propagation

Enjoy this word search all about plants you can propagate using only water! It’s not an exhaustive list, to be sure, but I hope it inspires you to start your own water-propagated mini garden. What are your favorite plants that can be propagated in water?     Enjoy more word searches here! And don’t forget …

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Love Yourself! newsletter – Love your Dazzle ✨

One of my least favorite misconceptions about autism is the myth that autistic individuals lack empathy. The truth is, empathy knows no neurotype. A recent experience with our son was an intense reminder that autistic people can and do care deeply about others, regardless of whether they are human or plastic glow bugs. A few …

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Actionable tips for your self-love journey

Self-love can be a difficult thing to navigate for a lot of us. Here are some actionable tips to help you along your path.   Gratitude journaling Try writing down things you’re grateful for every day. This can help you focus on the positive aspects of your life and cultivate an appreciation for what you …

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Love Yourself! Newsletter – Galactic self-care

I’ve talked a lot about finding your own forms of self-care because we are all so different, the same things will not work for all of us. My creative outlet lately has been painting shells, for a few reasons. First of all, it can be difficult to find art supplies where I live, so that’s instantly a barrier for …

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More than meets the AI: Quantum intelligence

The universe never gives up. Once something, anything, is set into motion, the universe will see it through one way or another. Everything that has ever happened has an effect on everything that will ever happen. And all of those things are a reaction to whatever happened at the genesis of this particular iteration.  Whatever …

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More than meets the AI: The ultimate trust fall

Your AI chatbot name is your middle name, plus the name of the first car you owned, and your credit card number. Paypal me $25 and I’ll tell you my secret for getting total strangers to give you money. The check is in the mail.  Trust me. In this issue: The ultimate trust fall (754 …

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More Than Meets the AI: How alive is alive enough?

I’m alive, I’m alive, I’m not alive, I’m Maroon 5. Whoops, sorry for that gibberish. We’re not sure how that got in here. Other than, you know, the fact that a human pretty much had to type it. Ahem. Cough. Cough.  In this issue:  -Moving goalposts (504 words) -How alive is alive enough? (463 words) …

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How to ‘save’ journalism

Throw a rock in a crowd and there’s a significant chance it’ll hit somebody who thinks journalism needs to be saved. I believe, today, there are more people in the world who believe journalists are generally untrustworthy and bad at their jobs than those who feel otherwise. I also believe that those people are wrong. …

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More than meets the AI: Move over chatbots, here comes the band

You can imitate a bee all you want, but that ain’t gonna get nobody any honey.  In this edition: Hi AI (176 words) High AI (296 words) Move over chatbots, here comes the band (523 words) Hi AI I try to imagine what meeting sentient AI will be like. I don’t mean the breakthrough moment …

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More than meets the AI: The chatbots are here. Now what?

Bing plus ChatGPT! Google and Bard! Baidu and … uhh.. Ernie bot? Okay. Sure. Baidu and Ernie bot! 2023 is the year of the chatbot, for sure.  In this issue: Alan Turing’s spirituality (649 words) Isaac Newton’s bullies (312 words) Bill Gates’ boundaries (178 words) Alan Turing’s spirituality With all the hubbub, hullabaloo, and fluff …

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Love Yourself! newsletter – Love your level-ups

When my son turned 6, he was incredibly excited about the concept of “leveling up.” It was something he clearly understood since he loves video games and is super, duper into numbers.  So naturally, when I was creeping up on my 40th birthday, he was very interested. “You’re turning level 40!” he’d exclaim, whether we …

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More than meets the AI: Past is prescient

Today’s issue is brought to you by: it’s Monday and I made it out of bed, isn’t that good enough? In this issue: STEMPH (252 words) Pro bono publico (288) I need money (179 words)  STEMPH Here’s an argument someone should have made a few centuries ago: history and philosophy should be included in the …

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More than meets the AI: Are you there AI? It’s me, Tristan

There’s an old song by Tears for Fears about how everybody wants to rule the world… but I can’t remember what it’s called. Anyway, I think we’re learning that Orzabal and Smith might have been dead wrong about our species. In this issue: Most of us don’t want to rule the world (292 words) AI …

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More than meets the AI: The biggest scam in tech

Preface: I love AI. I’m super long on LLMs, computer vision, and robotics. But not all AI is good. Some of it can only be used for harm. I used to have a pet dog when I was a kid, a massive rottweiler who was as lovable and sweet as she was big. One day, …

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More than meets the AI: Solving driverless cars (hint: it’s an infrastructure thing)

Here in my car I feel safest of all I can lock all my doors It’s the only way to live in cars In this issue: A million AI robotaxis by 2020 (167 words) Exit big tech (214 words) Bonus: How to fix hyperloop (82 words) A million AI robotaxis by 2020 Here in my …

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More than Meets the AI: 3 super simple pre-AGI unicorn ideas

Pssst. Hey you! C’mere. You wanna get rich? I’m selling AI unicorns. Don’t worry, the first one’s free. In this issue, three human-centered “Pre-AGI” startup ideas that should be possible well before artificial general intelligence: Kinetic barriers (257 words) A playing field leveler (158 words) Autonomous agriculture communes (385 words) Kinetic barriers Pitch: Have you …

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Classic board games: A word search

Take a few moments out of your day, relax, and enjoy this word search featuring classic board games. Do you see some of your old favorites? What about those that aren’t listed? See more word searches here! Have you subscribed to the Love Yourself! newsletter yet?

More than meets the AI: Jumping the whale

Ahh! Screaming noises! Fear! Running around in circles waving my hands above my head! Ahhhhh! In this issue… the world ends! Google is dead! Jumping the whale (48 words) Graduating medical school with the highest GPA (685 words) Emergent abilities in LLMs (78 words) Jumping the Whale Let’s play Jeopardy! Answer: A phrase describing a …

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More Than Meets the AI: You ain’t never had AI friend like me

Today’s issue of More Than Meets the AI: 3 wishes for generative AI (676 words) A tribute to humanity (188 words) Love and War (39 words) 3 Wishes Whenever people talk about the future of AI, it’s always “the singularity this” and “artificial general intelligence that.” But I’m more interested in what’s happening right now …

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Ditch the screens and play this adult board game on your next date night

It’s no secret that I love games, so getting to review an adult board game was pretty exciting. As grown folks, we don’t often make the time for play, even though it’s been proven to be a positive thing for ourselves, and our relationships. But a game where the winner gets to experience their “ultimate …

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More than meets the AI: Hang the Devs

This issue of More Than Meets The AI is brought to you by panic. Panic on the streets of London. Panic on the streets of Birmingham. Panic on the streets of Carlisle, Dublin, Dundee, and Humberside. Hang the Developers (367 words) That’s AImore! (146 words) I haven’t seen it (304 words) Hang the AI developers …

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Why Google Search Has Nothing to Fear From ChatGPT

Since OpenAI unveiled ChatGPT to the world last November, people have wasted little time finding imaginative uses for the eerily human-like chatbot. They have used it to generate code, create Dungeons & Dragons adventures, and converse on a seemingly infinite array of topics. Now some in Silicon Valley are speculating that the masses might come …

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More than meets the AI: Dungeons & Damages

Dr. Henry Frankenstein turned to his associate, Victor Moritz, and yelled “it’s alive!” The doctor didn’t say “she’s alive,” “he’s alive,” or “they’re alive!” He said: “Look! It’s moving. It’s alive. It’s alive… It’s alive, it’s moving, it’s alive, it’s alive, it’s alive, it’s alive, it’s alive!” The word of the day is “personification.” Football …

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More than Meets the AI: Universal Basic Freaking Income (UBFI)

Today’s column is brought to you by the letters U, B, F, and I. The “F” is optional but, in the next couple of decades, the “UBI” part will likely spell the difference between who gets to eat and who gets exploited into starvation. 3, 2, 1, intro time: Issue #3 Anything but basic (484 …

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More than meets the AI: A prayer for the living

When it comes to artificial intelligence, there’s almost no telling what machines will be capable of in the next month, year, or decade. I say “almost” because there’s a definite ceiling on AI potential. But, before I get into that, let us bow our heads and intro this issue: Issue #3: No fate but what …

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Love Yourself! newsletter # 11 – It’s our joy and we need it now!

Do you remember that old JG Wentworth commercial, where the people are yelling “it’s my money and I need it now!”? That’s how I feel about joy in my life. I’m trying to stop feeling like I have to earn my joy. I’m not talking about using things I enjoy as a positive motivator like getting a smoothie …

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More than meets the AI: The ‘Nick Cave Trap’

Never offer feedback on a demo tape. You probably didn’t come to this article today to get advice from a recording studio engineer, but here we are. First, though, we need to intro today’s column. Issue #2: The Nick Cave Trap (436 words) Boston Dynamics is out of control! (144 words) A quantum rant (262 …

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More than meets the AI: ‘Pre-AGI’

Introducing More than meets the AI, a daily column providing news and analysis on artificial intelligence at the cutting edge. This inaugural edition covers: What is “More than meets the AI?” (211 words) Defining “pre-AGI” (189 words) A call to action (146 words) What is More than meets the AI? The first time I got …

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Love Yourself! newsletter # 10 – Welcome to the propagation station of self-love

How many (alive) plants do you have in your home right now? I’ve never considered myself someone with a “green thumb.” I get easily distracted and overwhelmed, and plants are the first thing in my life to get neglected, which is fine, they’re just plants, but I do care about them and they often bring …

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Letters to the editor: “Will artificial intelligence take my job?”

Hey editors, I’m a long-time reader who loves what you’re doing. I’m wondering if all the hype surrounding AI is warranted. I keep seeing article after article saying AI’s going to take human jobs in every sector. But nobody’s writing about my job and I have to admit, I’m a bit concerned. So, here’s my question: will …

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Love Yourself! newsletter #9 – Embrace “good enough”

Good Enough I’ve really struggled to get this edition of the newsletter published, ironically, since its whole theme was intended to be “good enough is good.” I’ve gone through waves of procrastination, finally getting everything put together except for this intro. I started it a dozen times and sat at my keyboard with disorganized static …

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Do you really want free speech?

I’ve seen a lot of dead bodies. To the best of my knowledge, none of them ended up that way because they read some hate speech on the internet and immediately died of a word attack in their brains. Can you imagine if humans had that kind of power? If you could just send a …

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Word search – succulents

Enjoy this word search all about succulents! Take a few moments, breathe and think about your favorites. Do you see any you recognize? Let everyone in the comments know which one you like best! Check out more word searches here! Don’t forget to subscribe to the Love Yourself! newsletter  

Understanding binaries part one: Here’s why there aren’t any LGBTQ AIs

Nature abhors a binary. As far as I can tell, the only place binaries actually exist is in the human imagination. Even life and death, the ultimate human binary, are just processes affecting our physical matter — matter that was here long before we became conscious and will exist long after we’re pronounced dead. We …

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Love is a form of quantum entanglement

Surely you’ve heard the old axiom that romantic love is nothing more than a series of chemical reactions that take place in our brains. While that’s technically true — humans are made of matter, just about everything we do involves a chemical reaction — there’s a lot more to it than just dopamine and oxytocin release. …

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Aphrodisiacs are bogus. Here are some real ways to improve your sex life

Aphrodisiacs are bullshit, but the search for a magical “insta-horny” potion that makes folks wanna get busy has been going strong for millennia. People want to believe in them so badly that they poison themselves with dried beetles, throw their hard-earned money away on products full of sugar water and useless essential oils and ingest, …

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Game theory for self actuation

How do I access the version of myself that makes the best decisions? Game theory is a math-related concept that, generally speaking, has nothing to do with “games” or “gaming.” At its core, it uses probabilities and equations to solve challenges involving multiple intelligent bodies. A simple way of looking at it: game theory helps …

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Practice self-compassion and get some rest

A lack of sleep and proper rest can make your depression and anxiety symptoms worse, or make it harder to manage ADHD difficulties. Allowing your body the rest it requires affects things such as your heart health, insulin levels, and reducing the risk of heart attack and diabetes. It also affects your ability to heal …

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Games to play on date night: Solasta is the best CRPG intro to D&D we’ve found

Tactical Adventures’ Solasta: Crown of the Magister is among the most intriguing games I’ve reviewed. It’s one of those rare gems that you can’t help but suspect only exists because someone spent an entire weekend trying to scratch a specific gaming itch to no avail. From what we can tell, that someone is the studio’s founder, Mathieu …

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Pain relief, but make it sexy: CBD-infused massage oil review

Romantic Escapade is a delightful CBD-infused massage oil from the same folks who make my one of my favorite lubes.  It’s a light weight oil created from a variety of natural ingredients such as jojoba oil, apricot kernel oil, wild orange essence oils, vanilla, grapefruit essential oil and rose essence oil (which it leans heavily …

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Games to play on date night: Little Hope

Little Hope isn’t a high-action, gore-heavy, button-mashing kind of horror game. It’s an interactive scary movie where you take turns making choices for a cast of characters by divvying them up in the beginning and passing the controller back and forth. Which makes it an ideal activity to do in bed snuggled up with your …

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Understanding quantum social dynamics

Binaries do not exist in nature. In fact, I’d go so far as to say the universe abhors the binary. Nothing either is or isn’t. If that were the case, if anything simply was or wasn’t, then anyone who’s ever played a game of Go knows that eventually, all things would either be or they …

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Scientists found a trippy illusion that triggers pupil dilation (in most people)

Approximately 86% of the people who see the above hero image will experience involuntary pupil dilation. No, that’s not a GIF and the image isn’t manipulating your monitor’s refresh rate. If you’re among those who perceive the illusion, your brain is actually being tricked into believing you’re entering a darkened space. Dubbed ‘the expanding hole’ …

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Plant propagation: Turning trash into edible decorations

I freaking love growing plants in my kitchen using water propagation. It gives me a little dose of omg look how cool and cute and magical this is! daily dopamine until I lose interest, it dies and it’s not a big deal so I toss them and start over. Not only do I get to …

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My easy go-to guacamole recipe

Enjoy my easy go-to guacamole recipe that is ready for dipping in 10 minutes! Growing up in the Midwest, making guacamole with my mother was a treat we indulged in only a few times a year. I vividly remember carefully prying the pit out of the avocado, scraping off every last beautiful green bit, and …

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This glow-in-the-dark board game is a fun prop for date night

We sure love games here at Love is a Fetish, and that includes board games. Sometimes that means we dive into complex, challenging games. Other times we pop a bottle, snuggle up, and play a glow-in-the-dark board game that’s simple enough to play even if you don’t read the rules. That’s not a knock on …

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5 reasons why you should start a mini water propagation garden today