Today is my mother’s birthday. I haven’t heard from her in over two years. Not since we moved here. I tried to call a couple of weeks ago but never got a callback. Which was…kind of devastating, to be honest. It took a lot to work up the nerve to call. Putting yourself out …
A significant percentage of adults experience strong sexual fantasies. But why? Scientists have tried to explain human thought patterns by observing brain activity, studying human response to stimuli, and conducting innumerable studies. This is useful in explaining what’s going on when I try to think of something sexual. But to the best of our knowledge, …
Go on…Here’s why your brain has a mind of its own when it comes to sexual fantasies
I think the hard sciences fail us and the soft sciences often actively work to harm us. While that’s generally true, in this case, it’s a specific statement on the modern discourse surrounding male sexuality. We know more about the machinations of the quantum universe than we do about the human capacity for sexual …
I’m going to share an embarrassing story. Once, not long after my internship, I was approaching a deadline, and the person I was supposed to interview emailed to let me know they couldn’t make our call. They wanted to know if we could do the interview via email. I was over the moon. As someone …
Happy… Pride… month? Let me try that again. Ahem. Happypridemonth. Still not there. Happy meh meh meh. Well, fuck. I was starting to think that I sucked at being queer when June 3rd rolled around and I realized I hadn’t written a single thing for Love is a Fetish all month long. That’s 72 wasted hours. …
Do heterosexual men feel desired in their relationships? Survey says: No. A pair of Canadian researchers recently conducted a study involving 300 men between the ages of 18 and 65. Participants were sourced from Reddit and, apparently, self-identified as heterosexual. The men were asked questions relating to how “desired” they feel in their relationships. Surprisingly, …
Go on…Study: Traditional ‘scripts’ for sexuality leave heterosexual men feeling left out
Pride month is only three weeks away, and that means it’s time for people like me to get defensive about who we are. I’m queer. But am I queer enough? Am I pansexual enough? Am I demisexual enough? Who gets to decide? I’m on the asexual spectrum. Like all things human, asexuality …
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, it’s not going to get better. It’s not. — Dr. Seuss I have a truth that might sound harsh, cold, and unlike advice I usually have for folks struggling with their self esteem but I feel like it’s one I had to learn, accept and truly believe to …
Currently I am camped out on the couch in the living room with my laptop feeling rather crummy. I’m eating a bowl of straight up comfort food under a fuzzy pink blanket. What I’m wearing though? Fishnets and a soft, pretty cotton dress. The same fishnets in these photos I took this morning before …
You, Miss Nikki are a beautiful, adventurous soul. I was thinking about you today. Thinking about the walks we used to take in the woods, down that old dirt road, through town, early in the morning, alone and exploring old buildings and abandoned farms. You are such an explorer. I’m so sorry they make …